To the Editor:

On Thursday evening, Virginia’s anti-gay-marriage laws were ruled unconstitutional. On Friday the world celebrated the holiday of love, Valentine’s Day. In two days, on Sunday, I will celebrate the 41st anniversary of the day I met the love of my life. We have been in a same-sex marriage for more than 40 years, although our church at the time had to call it a “Holy Union” to avoid running afoul of the laws of Georgia.

The juxtaposition of those three dates has served to remind me how far we’ve come in 41 years. Back then, ours was “the love that dared not speak its name.” There was no political support for gay rights — let alone broader LGBT rights — in either party. Even nearly a decade later, the one sponsor of legislation to repeal Virginia’s sodomy law could not find a single co-sponsor.

I am proud of my party — the Democratic Party — for its evolution on LGBT issues and, most specifically, on the issue of marriage equality. Democratic organizations at all levels — Alexandria, 8th Congressional District, Virginia, and national — all endorsed marriage equality prior to the 2012 elections. Our president, vice president, two senators, congressman, governor, lt. governor and attorney general — all Democrats — all endorse marriage equality, and Attorney General Herring even argued in court in its favor. Support for marriage equality also comes from Alexandria’s Democratic representatives in the Virginia Senate and House of Delegates, our mayor, our six City Council members, and our three constitutional officers. The judge who issued the ruling was appointed by President Obama.

I and others like me have worked tirelessly over the decades to effectuate change within the Democratic Party, and it is gratifying to see that the party has listened. I fervently wish the sea change in attitudes that led to Thursday’s ruling were more bi-partisan. Unfortunately, gay Republicans and their allies have been unsuccessful in weaning their party from its right-wing constituency even though many mainstream Republicans tell us they support our cause.

While as a nation we still have a long way to go on issues such as employment and housing discrimination, we can at least see the light of success at the end of the tunnel on marriage equality. I would like to thank Democrats and everyone else who has supported and believed in this cause for making this decision possible. At age 65, it now looks like John and I might have our marriage legally-recognized in our lifetimes rather than posthumously.

Tom Osborne

The writer is a member of the Alexandria Democratic Committee and a board member of LGBT Democrats of Virginia.